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Monday, July 4, 2016

#Microblog Mondays: I Assumed Incorrectly



I decided to call Snowflakes on Friday, on our way to our weekly Mexican restaurant date. It had been about two weeks since we'd okayed showing the couple our profile for our frozen embryos, and we hadn't heard anything...it was slowly eating away at us. 

I had made an assumption at the beginning of this process -- we were going to be hard to match. We ourselves are lovely, I'd like to think, but our embryos are kind of a hot mess -- two sets at two different stages of development; two sets with two sets of genetics, each half donor and neither related to each other; absolutely no success in either cohort and no genetic siblings at all to model future babies after. Even though it stung when my friend said it, I was sort of thinking the same thing -- who on earth would take on these little blobs of potential? 

I assumed we would be rejected. 

I assumed wrong. 

We were told Friday that the couple was excited about us and our embryos (I would love to know more about that -- what is it couples look for in embryos that could be their future children?), and that the only reason they hadn't called us for an update was that they were having some hiccups with the receiving clinic and they don't like to call the genetic family until it's all set to go and contracts can be signed and it can be all official-like. So, we wait to have all the logistics set up, but the "adoptive parents" were quite excited about us our embryos. 

Well, I'll be. This is one area where I am very, very glad to have been wrong.  Now if only we could get an expectant mother to be just as excited about us and our potential as parents... 


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13 comments:

  1. When I read your last post, I was actually thinking I would feel like I hit the jackpot with your embryos. Donors have to be so so healthy, and donor material is expensive. I mean, donor sperm babies have 1/5th the rate of birth defects of general population babies. Then the other half being awesome people like you or Bryce? Can't go wrong.

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  2. :-) I suspect the decision process is much more gut feel then pros/cons on paper. I'm not surprised by the match at all. Just smiling!

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  3. Well whaddya know?! Cool beans.

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  4. That is amazing news, Jess! I feel like I should say congratulations or something, but that's not quite the right sentiment exactly lol I am happy you were wrong, and think that this couple is SO incredibly lucky to have this amazing gift from you.

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  5. What news!!! And now my fingers are crossed for more news very soon. As far as the expectant mother, I'm hoping you find your match soon too.

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  6. That's so lovely. In infertility and of course now your adoption process, there are so many feelings of failure and rejection. How nice to go through a process and feel accepted with open arms.

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  7. I hope that you see this in a very positive light. Your frozen embryos are closer to being on their way. Hope that all of the paperwork and logistics go smoothly! You all are very desirable. I think you will make great parents and the right person will appreciate that. Hoping and praying for you!

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  8. Whoo hoo! So happy for this first piece of good news (with more to follow soon, I'm sure)!

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  9. That is so cool! Sending lots of good thoughts for this process.

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  10. That's wonderful news! So excited for you and hoping for things to progress smoothly.

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  11. You are so wonderful and generous for making your embryos available for adoption!

    I agree with the comment above that says it's probably more about the gut feeling. Also, I could see some of the factors you mentioned being pluses for some folks... for example, some people might not want their child to have a lot of siblings out there. Also, I think it's amazing to think about what you went through to create those embryos- a lot of hard work, effort. and love... and there's something really special about that.

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  12. I'm so glad! I don't know what people look for in embryos either, but it's great they're excited about yours! :)

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