Monday, May 14, 2018

#Microblog Mondays: My Un-Mother's Day

All things considered, I did pretty well this first consciously childfree Mother's Day. Although I have to say, it feels a lot more childless on the day where it seems everyone is celebrating and I have my face pressed against the glass, unable to join in.

The day before things is usually harder for me than the actual day of, as I wallow and prepare myself for the onslaught. I had to go to the grocery store, which was all decked out in roses and chocolates (apparently moms are suckers for roses and chocolates, although squint your eyes at the signs and you might mistake it for Valentine's Day...), and pick up the delicious foods for another yummy feast from Bryce (he wanted a do-over on the tenderloin we had for my birthday as the seasoning was "off" according to him and he had thoughts on improving the demiglace), and I was all prepared to be wished a Happy Mother's Day. I had a scenario in my head where I got the scallops and the seafood guy said, "Have a happy Mother's Day," and I replied, "And also to you!" so that he could look all confused and then I could say it applied to him as much as it applied to me. Har de har har har.

But, no one wished me a Happy Mother's Day on that outing, and so that one stays in my pocket for another year.

I was in a bit of a funk in the evening, but by the morning I was in pretty good spirits. Here is how I spent my day:

Bought me some cheerful flowers along with dinner eats. Flowers are for me, too!


I made an Un-Mother's Day fancy breakfast for me and Bryce, blueberry pancakes with bacon and strawberries. I sort of wish that I'd turned the strawberries around the other way so they'd be all pointy and sun-ray-like, but oh well. Next year. 


After breakfast I went to my 90 minute massage, where my wonderful massage therapist gave me a handmade birthday card and didn't wish me a Happy Mother's Day, not once, and didn't talk about it at all. I left feeling super relaxed. 

Then, I gardened! Pulling weeds, having my first snake sighting of the spring (I may have pet him and cooed in his general direction, horrifying my neighbor...) and working on a project that I've been sitting on for YEARS: 

Ugly and partially sanded, a chair I garbage picked from the curb to put in the garden and had all intentions of spray painting lilac, but hadn't gotten around to in, oh, about 5 years. 

Today's the day, chair! Also, I accidentally spray painted my feet a slightly dead-ish tint of lilac, too. Whoops. 

Voila! In the garden, all bright and pretty and purply. Beeyootiful!

I had phone conversations with my mom who was out of town, my grandmother who received my card I sent, and my mother-in-law. I weeded some more. Dinner was take out Thai food after going to the gym, which was pleasantly DEAD on this holiday. And then I capped off the day with this: 

Ohhhh, so very good! Fantasy YA fiction, perfect for Un-Mother's Day because it involves a kingdom whose matriarchy is passed down through the queen having triplets (which she always does), then when they're 6 they go to their magical gift's homeland to train, and then when they're 16 they plot to kill each other as only one can survive and become the new queen. I  LOVE this book!

I may have also capped off the night with a Manhattan. 

It was a lovely Un-Mother's Day. I hope that you had a good day, or survived it, in tact and with the ability to take care of you. Until next year, Un-Mother's Day!

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24 comments:

  1. That chair is magical. It makes me happy and I love it! I also want your blueberry pancakes, bacon, and strawberries too please. Looks delicious!! A very happy day indeed. <3

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    1. Thank you! Mmmm, breakfast was so good. It was fun to make the day celebratory, but for different reasons. :)

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  2. What a great day! I love that chair on your garden! Such good taste you have. I need to pull/hoe/curse weeds....right now they are teeny little weeds, but they grow a little every day and it grates on me....I should launch the assault while they are still vulnerable. It’s a war of attrition but I can’t totally admit defeat. It’s good you took care of yourself and people made it easy for once. I dislike the cliches of Mother’s day even if it’s not the ordeal it once was. I would like to ignore them but feel like I can’t....so I secretly cheer for those who do.

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    1. Thank you! Ah yes, kill the weeds when they are young and defenseless, before they decide to propagate wildly. Too late for me, I have to spend some time murdering dandelions. Thank you for the cheers! I hope you had a nice Mother's Day with your girls and your husband and of course your mom!

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  3. I think you've summed it up. Whilst we can spend the rest of the year feeling childFREE, and for the most part I do, I think on Mother's Day we are almost forced to feel childLESS.

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    1. YES! Yesyesyesyesyes. I really do see a distinction between the two.

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  4. Oh, and I meant to say - Thai food cures all ills (mostly), and I love the lilac chair in the garden.

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    1. Mmmmmm, blueberry pancakes and bacon are my favorite Sunday morning treat... :) Glad you like the chair! It came out EXACTLY how I envisioned it. It's lovely when that happens! :)

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  5. This sounds like a lovely day! I'm glad you enjoyed a serene day!

    I'm very curious now about the final chair :)

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    1. Thank you! It was definitely serene. Minus spraypainting my toes lilac... :) I have to put a box under the chair for the potted plant, but it looks lovely as a chair skeleton right now!

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  6. I love that chair! I love that you upcycled it into something that many will admire, turning it from undesired to something breaktaking.

    Fits well with the theme of your day!

    I’m so glad that you had such a wonderful and relaxing day. And I love your comeback comment; you’ll have to let us know the end result if you get a chance to you it.

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    1. Thank you! Yes, it felt so good to take the ugly ketchup-and-mustard chair and make it all fresh and springy and new. Ooooh, I love that making beauty from crap is the theme! :) It was lovely. And I can't wait to use that Mother's Day zinger...

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  7. Your Sunday beat my Sunday. Not that mine was bad, but that yours HAD A LAVENDER CHAIR IN IT. And BACON.

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    1. Oh yes, your favorite color! It was lovely to have both bacon and a pretty chair. And blueberry pancakes! And dark fantasy YA novel! :) I hope you had a lovely Mother's Day despite the lack of bacon and lavender chairs.

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  8. I started my Sunday with bacon too. (I start most Sundays with bacon). Love the chair, love your day.

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    1. It's the best way to start a Sunday, actually! I am totally behind that choice. Thanks for the chair/day love! I hope you had a great day as well.

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  9. Love the chair! Nice job with it!

    Those pancakes look amazing. :-)

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    1. Thank you! I was scared because I have done zero spray painting before, but it came out great! And yummmmmm, blueberry pancakes are my favorite. AND they're gluten free! Magic!

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  10. Thank you for sharing - just your pictures make me happy! The chair is fantastic and the flowers seem to be singing! Good for you for finding positive, happy ways to spend a tough day.

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    1. Thank you so much! I hope the day was kind to you. I have had so many crappy Mother's Days where I felt just ripped apart, it was lovely to reclaim it.

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  11. Love this! I laughed at your joke to the fish man... too bad that one couldn’t be used, but next year. I’m a mom now and I still super dislike Mother’s Day. I still lay low at home and don’t like to leave my house. It’s such a warped day!

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    1. Ha! Yes, such a wasted joke... Ah, next year maybe I will have an opportunity to use my zinger. It is a warped day. And so fascinating that the origins are TOTALLY different than the blitz it's become. I hope you had a good day yourself!

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  12. Mmmmm... BACON.... (said in best Homer Simpson voice). Glad you had a good day!

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  13. I am so glad that you are who you are, that you find ways to make the best of difficult anniversaries, and that you have such a great sense of humor. (Love the "And to you, too!" comment idea.) Mothers' Day is hard for me because my Mother is gone. So I trot out old photographs that look more and more like antiques with every passing year...and remember. And I realize things like, "Next year I will be as old as my mother-in-law was when I got married to Rob!" I do believe there is a time warp associated with that holiday. Kudos to you for the way you approached it.

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