Somehow, despite having this information since the summer, I just haven't gotten around to it.
It makes no sense. I should be prepared and ready for these calls! I should have my little notebooks/hand-folded-and-stapled cheat sheets already in my car and my purse and Bryce's car!
But I don't.
I don't know if I was just so consumed with all the other adoption action items, or getting ready for another school year...but I just didn't get it together. And then we didn't receive any calls whatsoever, so I didn't feel a sense of urgency.
But then, I had my mock profile opportunity call, and the seriousness of needing a clear system for writing down the information was apparent:
|scribble scribble scribble in my favorite purple pen|
So, here is my own list of fill-in categories that would be helpful for a profile call, in case it is helpful to any of you. It is fairly exhaustive, but I think better that than to be writing feverishly in the margins only to struggle to put it all together cohesively later. Here it is, based on all the information I received on our fake call. I realize we may not get this much information on any given call, or there might actually be more info out there, so it's a fluid document and by no means meant to be exhaustive or the end-all-be-all. Also, obviously some info is more important than others, but I was amazed at the breadth of information I was given in such a relatively short period of time.
Profile Opportunity Cheat Sheet
Name Expectant/Birth Mother:
Height & Weight:
Physical Appearance (hair color, eye color, etc.):
Reason for Placement:
Baby due date or birth date:
Exposures: (cigarettes, caffeine, alcohol, drugs)
Expectant/Birth Mother Health History:
Expectant/Birth Mother Family Health History:
Expectant/Birth Father Info:
Health of Baby at Birth:
Fees: (total, placement, birth parent expenses, birth parent legal, agency legal, professional support, professional expenses, post-placement support, post-placement visits & how many)
WHEW. It's a lot of info. In my Word document, some areas have longer notes lines than others. In our fake call, there was very little info on the birth father. I suspect that may be more frequent than not, but I don't really know. So there's a lot of lines there, but that info came up surprisingly late in the call.
If you have any suggestions on things that I may have overlooked that came up in your calls, please feel free to comment! I want to be writing as little categorically as possible, just the facts about the individual situation. So much to sift through on these calls. I hope we get a real one sooner than later, even one that's not right, so that we can put my little form to the test and feel a little bit more prepared...even though the "fake call" was quite the educational experience.
FutureBaby, every day we're a little more ready for you and the unveiling of your mystery.