There is a staggering amount of paperwork involved in adoption -- stacks and stacks and stacks -- before you even have those home study visits and are eligible to be profiled by expectant parents. I don't mind sending in all the required paperwork to prove that we are upstanding people with an incredible marriage and good, stable lives (although it did seem awfully morbid to have to send in a report from my doctor that stated that I was "likely to live to the majority of my child" -- a little creepy, that one, so glad the answer was YES).
But I AM a little worried that my way of attacking all this paperwork is causing little alarm bells to ring on the part of the agency.
We have gotten a TON of the paperwork in already -- all that's left is Bryce's medical form, our employment form, our financial form, our 2015 tax forms, and the autobiographies, once we mail in the birth certificates, marriage certificates, and divorce decrees that are now in our possession. In fact, I'm waiting to mail those documents until this weekend, because...
When I called for clarification on filling out the background check form with the 28 addresses (Bryce lived here first, then I moved in, so -- just in case you have this similar situation -- you list it on the "shared addresses" page on the front to the date that the second person moved in, and then the first person lists it again on their individual addresses page to account for the time before the other person combined households), it was a week after we'd met to get all the forms.
Our family advocate was like, a little hesitant, "You don't have to actually get all this in now...your classes aren't until May. [It won't speed things up to crank through this.]" *unclear if this was actually said, or inferred by me
So I was immediately red-faced on my end of the phone connection, and rushed, "Oh no no no no no no, I am in no way sending in my stuff ASAP and then expecting things to move on your end as fast as I can crank through the paperwork and get it to you. I just want it off my plate, into your hands, sooner than later--especially since I'm on school break and can run around to get some of the things done that require appointments and visits to government buildings."
That seemed to soothe the worries, real or imagined, that I was going to be like, "I GOT MY PAPERWORK IN! GIVE ME MY BABY NOW!" Which I really am not like at all. I just like, when there is a task to be done, to figure out the best possible way to attack it and get it done.
But now I'm a teensy bit worried I'm making a reputation for myself as being overly eager and/or high maintenance. It's not really so hard to feel a little overanalyzed as you're basically opening yourself up for deep inspection on this path to become parents, even if you are being a tad sensitive along the way.
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