tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post9192398024364734794..comments2023-11-19T21:42:17.901-08:00Comments on My Path to Mommyhood: #Microblog Mondays: How Are You With The Wait? Jesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-6472699714937606122016-04-23T18:21:50.518-07:002016-04-23T18:21:50.518-07:00Hurray for good (although it would be nice if easy...Hurray for good (although it would be nice if easy and simple both made appearances in your life soon)! Glad to hear things are still moving in a positive direction. *hugs*internetg33khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12672869878789920528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-82975326718092229262016-04-23T08:11:07.564-07:002016-04-23T08:11:07.564-07:00Thank you! It is super stressful but we're mak...Thank you! It is super stressful but we're making it through (it helps that I'm expecting but I can have my Friday margaritas, morning coffee, and wine). Oh my gosh, you have me in stitches with your "Do you mean did they go in naturally or come out naturally? Either way, the answer's 'no.'" story... HILARIOUS. I have to really come up with some doozies for the people who give me side eye for my choices. Love how people who don't have to make these choices are so quick to question mine and assume I didn't really think about them. Worth it to educate folks, but jeez louise, it's tough not to lose it on the ones who don't think before they speak. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-67679907513929846802016-04-23T08:08:27.152-07:002016-04-23T08:08:27.152-07:00Thanks for your thoughts! It's not easy, altho...Thanks for your thoughts! It's not easy, although we are feeling like we're getting better and better at this waiting thing every day. We're so much less "graspy" with this than we were with infertility. Probably because I don't have daily reminders. It is definitely tough to hit that one year mark... I was so hoping we'd fall within the average, but I think averages are misleading anyway. If the average is 7-9 months, that means some people took 3 months and some took 2 years... not that most people took 7-9 months. That helps me to not put a fake deadline on things (something fairly destructive that I'm REALLY GOOD AT DOING). Breathing deep and hoping the home study update is smooth! :) THanks for your thoughts!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-53790515169095988732016-04-23T08:06:06.142-07:002016-04-23T08:06:06.142-07:00I feel her! That's exactly what it's like....I feel her! That's exactly what it's like. I like to buy something baby related every once in a while to remind me that I am actually expecting in the most amorphous of ways... one time I got a box that contained Butt Paste (I hear it's amazing). It made my day. Other times I want to plan a vacation for the summer because it seems we'll still be waiting. Tell your friend I'm in her boat! :)Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-24699088448968479582016-04-23T08:04:33.880-07:002016-04-23T08:04:33.880-07:00Thanks so much! It is definitely this weird jumble...Thanks so much! It is definitely this weird jumble of unnerving and exciting, and we swing from one to the other. Sometimes it's really exciting thinking it could be tomorrow, but after a while it's easier to think it's just going to be a long time. Swing, swing, swing. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-3435061365260057252016-04-23T08:02:54.700-07:002016-04-23T08:02:54.700-07:00I love that people are interested, too! It made me...I love that people are interested, too! It made me so happy to have so many people want to hear about the process and learn about it. Not so much when they just want to make sure I've considered all the options, like we haven't spent 6.5 years weighing all our choices very carefully... Grrr. Isn't that crazy that it's almost been a year since the homestudy? TIME FLIES. Hopefully we're not too far from the end of the wait. At least we're getting better at the waiting, SO MUCH PRACTICE. :) Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-82990305490901798862016-04-23T08:00:56.910-07:002016-04-23T08:00:56.910-07:00Thank you! One day we'll actually get the pape...Thank you! One day we'll actually get the paperwork... :) (It's coming next week.) I just like getting it in and then getting it the heck off our plates so once again we've done what we can do. At least it appears we get the same social worker--I loved our social worker. Thanks for thinking of us!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-36943192124259862312016-04-23T07:59:48.519-07:002016-04-23T07:59:48.519-07:00Thank you! Some day I will not be submerged under ...Thank you! Some day I will not be submerged under all my school stuff. Hard to believe there's only 9 weeks left of school. Thank you so much for your kind words! I hope our wait ends soon, but in the meantime we just keep doing our best to not go bonkers during this bizarre way to live. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-25257366188749053762016-04-23T07:58:45.467-07:002016-04-23T07:58:45.467-07:00Isn't that the best title? It was fun (if such...Isn't that the best title? It was fun (if such things can ever be classified as "fun.") -- I would far rather be the trainer and in charge of the day in my little scoring room than be subjected to it. Guess that's the control freak in me. Thank you for your judginess! It always disappoints me, but sadly never surprises me that other people feel they are an expert on my life and choices. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-36165724545488322852016-04-22T18:28:59.297-07:002016-04-22T18:28:59.297-07:00I agree with the other ladies. You're doing th...I agree with the other ladies. You're doing the very best with a stressful situation. From career choices, to family choices, to political choices.. There are people in life who just don't seem to "get it" and like you say, look at you like you're nuts. I went through infertility a while ago and still people look at my kids who are pretty young considering my husband's age and my age & they're multiples so the writing's on the proverbial wall but they'll still ask me: "Did you have them naturally?" Like it's their business. So I get a perverse pleasure in answering thusly: "Do you mean did they go in naturally or come out naturally? Either way, the answer's "no". Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00241440303548441344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-89289847277433176122016-04-21T23:25:14.444-07:002016-04-21T23:25:14.444-07:00Sending thoughts your way as you wait. It does no...Sending thoughts your way as you wait. It does not sound easy. That last check may have been tough to write as it nears the one year mark. But, it seems important to keep on top of things so you don't have to worry about a gap. Glad to hear that talking about adoption does not bring tears and that you have support in real life, too.<br />Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06275071143469111072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-80841866345138693022016-04-20T22:13:12.782-07:002016-04-20T22:13:12.782-07:00One of my friends is waiting and hoping to be chos...One of my friends is waiting and hoping to be chosen, and she swings back and forth between thinking it's never going to happen and wondering if she should buy diapers this weekend just in case.Kecharahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05711100496195654068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-43025458861310781392016-04-20T10:42:36.661-07:002016-04-20T10:42:36.661-07:00I like the last line. It's unnerving to not k...I like the last line. It's unnerving to not know how long you'll be waiting, but it's sort of exciting, too, to think that you could get a call at any moment that could change your life for the better.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-5071305863365537792016-04-20T09:10:13.050-07:002016-04-20T09:10:13.050-07:00Love that people are interested!
I'm so sorr...Love that people are interested! <br /><br />I'm so sorry this is such a weird limbo. I<br /><br /> can't believe it's been a year! Since you've had calls, decorated the nursery, and all of that it's been exciting to follow your story and it seems so much shorter. <br /><br />I completely understand not wanting to do surrogacy. Just remember, not only are those of us who do have complicated paths to family building completely different from one another, but people who don't are a whole 'nother ball game. You're doing what's right for you, don't second guess based on the feelings of someone else. Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00585102132829280344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-71031666858642556652016-04-19T14:16:03.199-07:002016-04-19T14:16:03.199-07:00Echoing Lori. I admire how you are handling this p...Echoing Lori. I admire how you are handling this period of waiting. It's so very hard to do. Thinking of you as you fill out the paperwork.Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-59138090490659777592016-04-19T12:31:53.653-07:002016-04-19T12:31:53.653-07:00Yes, what Lori and Charlotte said.
"Being o...Yes, what Lori and Charlotte said. <br /><br />"Being open means contending with people's reactions, I guess." That really sums it up. The positive and the negative.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-61123582132941059762016-04-19T09:06:08.774-07:002016-04-19T09:06:08.774-07:00I am very happy to hear from you! It sounds like y...I am very happy to hear from you! It sounds like you guys are doing the very best you can to enjoy each other and life while this whole other part of your life is in this weird limbo. I am glad this waiting period of life is not completely wrecking you, as waits can do that to anyone. I hope that your wait ends very soon. Charlottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08987444437659867827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-51147864324468475782016-04-19T06:02:47.064-07:002016-04-19T06:02:47.064-07:00Hello, Question Expert :-)
Glad you're feelin...Hello, Question Expert :-)<br /><br />Glad you're feeling better. And it sounds like you're handling the wait with your usual grace. I like the way you are open to sharing with people what the wait is like. And I'm feeling judgy of people who judge your choices. Grrrrr...Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.com