tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post513546442910824760..comments2023-11-19T21:42:17.901-08:00Comments on My Path to Mommyhood: How Do You Say Goodbye? Looking for AdviceJesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-21543933081482333082014-01-04T14:04:41.414-08:002014-01-04T14:04:41.414-08:00Thanks for weighing in! Now to write this letter a...Thanks for weighing in! Now to write this letter and get it over with... ugh.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-11791681992479544892014-01-04T14:01:37.518-08:002014-01-04T14:01:37.518-08:00Thanks, Lindsey! A letter (tucked into a card) is ...Thanks, Lindsey! A letter (tucked into a card) is what we've decided on. Now the question is, just one, or targeted to different people? There were so many people who were cheering us on and who did more than they had to to offer condolences or support. So bittersweet (without much of the sweet). Thanks for your thoughts and the compliment! :)Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-16275895869825683712014-01-04T13:59:54.217-08:002014-01-04T13:59:54.217-08:00Thank you, thanks for the advice and for your thou...Thank you, thanks for the advice and for your thoughts on 2014. I'm so appreciative of your wishes and concern... I am so hoping that this new chapter brings us the family happiness we have been waiting so long for. (or waiting for so long, as I cringed ending on a preposition, a sign I'm ready to head back to school I guess!) :)Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-89109534258476683372014-01-04T08:48:21.632-08:002014-01-04T08:48:21.632-08:00I would go with the letter, for all of the above r...I would go with the letter, for all of the above reasons. Make a clean break, and move on. They will understand.Pat Wheelhousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05522148669774592247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-52497843646192653912014-01-03T15:08:02.328-08:002014-01-03T15:08:02.328-08:00I agree with the ladies above. I think a letter wo...I agree with the ladies above. I think a letter would be best. Written word is obviously your medium and will give you the opportunity to express your appreciation for their kindness while explaining the difficult decision you need to make to move on. I think it will be appreciated. I'm sure they have their fair share of people who just disappear and then they receive a records request from another clinic. Lindsey Gagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16656369641031473734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-79626414779726848052014-01-03T12:57:17.542-08:002014-01-03T12:57:17.542-08:00i think a nice card would be appreciated. Either n...i think a nice card would be appreciated. Either now, or once you have success, whether that be at another clinic or through domestic or international adoption. <br /><br />I know this has been such a hard year for you and I'm so sorry. But I am crossing my fingers for 2014 to bring happiness and resolution. Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04638991577065880208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-84055938198696741302014-01-03T10:24:48.317-08:002014-01-03T10:24:48.317-08:00OK, my link to the Adoption Tax Credit site on res...OK, my link to the Adoption Tax Credit site on resolve.org was busted, so I've just fixed it... hope that clears up any confusion!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-5885511364556531012014-01-03T09:14:15.076-08:002014-01-03T09:14:15.076-08:00Thanks, Aimee... I think I'm going with letter...Thanks, Aimee... I think I'm going with letter. I may do letter and email so that I'm sure it gets where it's supposed to go, but with the same text. I feel kind of guilty because we have those 1-day embryos still on ice there, and they thought we'd be doing something with them, but I think we have to move forward with our other plans first because I suspect those embryos aren't going to result in much. I hate to say it that way but there it is...and I can't use up what stamina I have left on questionable embryos from a cohort that was entirely disappointing. Oh well... I agree, that "one more time" jargon could be tricky in person. Thanks for your thoughts!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-23647550796224575602014-01-03T09:11:37.523-08:002014-01-03T09:11:37.523-08:00Thank you for sharing your experience--I am trying...Thank you for sharing your experience--I am trying hard not to be totally angry. Don't get me wrong, there are definitely frustrations and I have been downright mad, furious even with some of the short-sightedness I feel there has been, but mostly I am mad that I didn't take the reins and move on to a second opinion sooner, because who knows? A movement to something different could have either resulted in better outcomes or it could have given me the peace to move on to another family building option sooner. I am confident that 2014 will bring either medical resolution or the ability to say ENOUGH and start the adoption process. I am so happy for you and your baby girl--I hope that beautiful resolution is in my near future. I really wish that there would be more black-and-white in this, that I don't have to be ultimately the one who says I've hit my limit. I guess that's the double edged sword of medical technology...there's always some new hope out there to cling to, but never a 100% guarantee. I wish you peace! Thanks for stopping by.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-5044944789047955382014-01-02T18:52:50.564-08:002014-01-02T18:52:50.564-08:00I would send a letter. Expressing your feelings, ...I would send a letter. Expressing your feelings, but then you won't be pressured in having to fend of the "One more time" jargon in person. Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11569304261655584855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-14975862125251109332014-01-02T17:42:38.055-08:002014-01-02T17:42:38.055-08:00They will get it. The majority of women who acces...They will get it. The majority of women who access reproductive assistance never conceive. They see it all the time. It is very nice of you to be so un-jaded toward them. I still feel pretty angry with the three clinics I used who all insisted I had a chance -- when I did not. Never once did they tell me the majority of women are never able to conceive this way. We have moved on and have adopted a perfect baby girl. I wish I had moved on sooner.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-55125578975208655292014-01-02T14:12:17.830-08:002014-01-02T14:12:17.830-08:00Thanks! Yes, there is A LOT of information. It is ...Thanks! Yes, there is A LOT of information. It is overwhelming and I am not quite ready to really delve headlong into it yet... but I have had a WONDERFUL experience with Adoption STAR, an agency here in NY but I believe they service Ohio and Florida too, and their website has a BOATLOAD of resources and information. The closest office to me is in Buffalo but they do stuff here in Rochester and also in Albany. It sure is a lot to process. I look forward to reading your post about your exploration! I agree, let's pool resources... :)Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-32861671386558617692014-01-02T14:03:40.503-08:002014-01-02T14:03:40.503-08:00I think an email or a phone call is sufficient! Yo...I think an email or a phone call is sufficient! You've gone as far as you can with them. <br /><br />I'm looking at domestic infant adoption, too---yikes is it a lot of information to digest! Will write a post about it soon. Maybe we can help each other in researching it. I didn't realize that there was still a tax credit! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-74567967727724347702014-01-02T11:37:45.895-08:002014-01-02T11:37:45.895-08:00Thank you--that is super helpful. A letter is pers...Thank you--that is super helpful. A letter is personal but without the possibility of an uncomfortable in-person meeting... Thanks for weighing in! Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-39194672777599451962014-01-02T11:25:20.482-08:002014-01-02T11:25:20.482-08:00I would write a letter or email thanking them for ...I would write a letter or email thanking them for all of their help, but telling them that you need to move on. I'm sure they will understand as the end goal is for a baby and they haven't been able to give you that.Non Sequitur Chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07268138421234170972noreply@blogger.com