tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post1017842729605111570..comments2023-11-19T21:42:17.901-08:00Comments on My Path to Mommyhood: #Microblog Mondays: "Oh, I Want to Adopt, Too!" Jesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-87331408221507572322015-08-18T06:09:04.714-07:002015-08-18T06:09:04.714-07:00Oh, my.
And sigh.......
Glad you got someone els...Oh, my.<br /><br />And sigh.......<br /><br />Glad you got someone else on the return trip!Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-9066838571901741192015-08-16T13:02:35.918-07:002015-08-16T13:02:35.918-07:00Oh, good heavens. It sounds like she almost went ...Oh, good heavens. It sounds like she almost went down the list of "Things NOT Say/Common Misperceptions" about adoption. Ugh. Sorry that you had to deal with that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-31671335172632665142015-08-14T09:17:31.048-07:002015-08-14T09:17:31.048-07:00I meant to comment earlier as this post got under ...I meant to comment earlier as this post got under my skin--as someone who has worked in international development for 10 years trying to actually improve the lives of people in developing countries this neocolonial attitude drives me crazy (while fully understanding there's a whole neocolonial aspect of my field). But why this nitwit of a girl thinks that she'd do a better job raising an "African" baby than the child's mother/father/grandmother/aunt is beyond me. That is not to say that I have a problem with international adoption, I absolutely don't, but only when it's done with thoughtfulness and love, not because they think they're helping these poor people out of a jam, or whatever her rationale is. Ugh. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-20199512638551385322015-08-14T07:10:03.059-07:002015-08-14T07:10:03.059-07:00Unfortunately, people have very interesting ideas ...Unfortunately, people have very interesting ideas about adoption. We just tried not to let it ruin our trip (it didn't, but it was memorable...). No need for scenes on such a wondrous day! :)Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-80185736350998683512015-08-14T07:09:02.953-07:002015-08-14T07:09:02.953-07:00I tried really hard to be nice and tactful, even t...I tried really hard to be nice and tactful, even though it was a little hard! This was somewhat a scouting trip and meant to cover the big items that would require the most questioning and decision-making. Stay tuned, next post is all about the registering and whatnot! :)Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-64581164306238503782015-08-14T07:07:55.209-07:002015-08-14T07:07:55.209-07:00I tried, for sure. Definitely she was young and na...I tried, for sure. Definitely she was young and naive. We aren't going near that area, and don't have as many questions about all the other stuff, so hopefully we can avoid her! Thanks, hopefully next shopping trip is less overwhelming. :)Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-40581592160704839832015-08-14T07:06:56.407-07:002015-08-14T07:06:56.407-07:00Yes, yes to clueless AND novelty. Ugh. Ha, I have ...Yes, yes to clueless AND novelty. Ugh. Ha, I have heard that... Buy Buy Baby is such a weird little microcosm. I want to not want to hyperventilate there, but there's so much trauma associated with getting to this point that I think I just have to do everything there in little increments. I'm sure there's a fair number of people who feel the same! :)Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-19665072934950062892015-08-14T07:02:25.375-07:002015-08-14T07:02:25.375-07:00Seriously. It so felt like a trend, a fad, and not...Seriously. It so felt like a trend, a fad, and not something she thought about whatsoever other than, "wow, how awesome would it be to one-up the people who donate money." Maybe there's a kernel of earnestness there, but it was hard to see it through the bizarre statements she made. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-29926546492277449622015-08-14T07:01:20.275-07:002015-08-14T07:01:20.275-07:00Yup, Ugh just about sums it up. I sincerely hope w...Yup, Ugh just about sums it up. I sincerely hope we get someone else when we go again tomorrow.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-87982500328633353452015-08-14T03:08:07.446-07:002015-08-14T03:08:07.446-07:00Be proud of yourself that you didn't excoriate...Be proud of yourself that you didn't excoriate her on the spot. Your vitriolic younger sister (moi) would have done that, and probably made a horrific scene in the process. Seriously, this person works in a baby products store????!!!!Amanda Prescotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11709979610638621806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-37528815831501809452015-08-12T23:26:20.092-07:002015-08-12T23:26:20.092-07:00I agree with feeling annoyed when people treat ado...I agree with feeling annoyed when people treat adoption like a novelty. There are very real people involved in this process all around. Ugh. Sounds like you handled the situation with tact.<br /><br />Did you guys register for a bunch of stuff or was this more of a scouting trip to get ideas of what you would like to get? Do you have a theme in mind? Baby planning details please! :)Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06275071143469111072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-18324127522806434062015-08-12T09:51:18.972-07:002015-08-12T09:51:18.972-07:00Yikes. It sounds like you rolled with her comment...Yikes. It sounds like you rolled with her comments as annoying as they were but it also sounds like this person could use a little more training or at least tact. Understandably she's young and naive but still. I do hope she isn't there next visit or I'd ask for someone else haha Have fun shopping!Michelle Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18344980628402079740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-73142244434472025542015-08-11T22:43:01.161-07:002015-08-11T22:43:01.161-07:00Wow. That goes beyond clueless. It's annoying ...Wow. That goes beyond clueless. It's annoying when people treat adoption as a novelty. BTW, even with a nine month bump, I still felt like I didn't belong in Buy Buy Baby.jAllenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06282963869813954232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-3647705741479278042015-08-11T04:48:45.811-07:002015-08-11T04:48:45.811-07:00oh boy, haha! She'll probably change her mind ...oh boy, haha! She'll probably change her mind as she gets older though, I think it just looks like a cool thing to do at the moment because of Angelina & Brad, Madonna etc etc!dubliner in Deutschlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16531838540641364420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-61350849050636884592015-08-10T20:56:58.998-07:002015-08-10T20:56:58.998-07:00Oh, that's just...ugh.Oh, that's just...ugh. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com