tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post974644598417604330..comments2023-11-19T21:42:17.901-08:00Comments on My Path to Mommyhood: Out From Under, MostlyJesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-81822665424790689862017-06-24T09:36:03.109-07:002017-06-24T09:36:03.109-07:00I think of you always. Many hugs.I think of you always. Many hugs.Amanda Prescotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11709979610638621806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-46554523511957885682017-05-30T10:05:32.757-07:002017-05-30T10:05:32.757-07:00Yikes, Jess! You really do need a bubble! You poor...Yikes, Jess! You really do need a bubble! You poor thing!<br />Fingers crossed on the National Board Cert. So unfair that it takes 6 months to get results. Maybe that will be a great Christmas present!Charlottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08987444437659867827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-3895247475985271572017-05-23T06:15:11.362-07:002017-05-23T06:15:11.362-07:00Aw Jess you've had a bumpy ride. I hope things...Aw Jess you've had a bumpy ride. I hope things will start to smooth out for you two. 'Albatross' is a great way to describe the situation you've been mired in. Hopefully once you're free of it you can start to really live. Take carehttps://differentshoresblog.wordpress.com/https://www.blogger.com/profile/16936131757889957955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-60341073417109379432017-05-22T19:14:07.242-07:002017-05-22T19:14:07.242-07:00Congratulations on finishing your National Board c...Congratulations on finishing your National Board certification writing - wow, that sounds like an ENORMOUS amount of work in such a short time! <br /><br />I'm so sorry to hear about the fall and injuries. Hope you are healing quickly and getting better. That's so much to deal with on top of dealing with all the emotions surrounding M- Day and your transition. Sending a hug and thoughts for healing (on all counts, emotional and physical).<br /><br />Hope the vacation planning goes well and you and Bryce can find some place truly lovely and restful. And yay for no more prednisone!!!<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-77057083048576130292017-05-22T13:28:05.071-07:002017-05-22T13:28:05.071-07:00Good to hear from you, Jess -- although I am sorry...Good to hear from you, Jess -- although I am sorry you've been so busy at a time when (I think) you need to take it easy & be extra-kind to yourself...! I hope the bruises are fading by now, and that you are having fun planning your trip! (Last summer, dh stumbled over his flipflops while playing with some kids on my parents' cement patio -- down he went, broke his glasses & gave himself quite the shiner! Thankfully, he thought to bring an old (but still adequate) pair of glasses on our trip, because he was driving!!) <br /><br />Sending (((hugs))) as you start this new phase of your life together. <3 loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-39489799439235023792017-05-21T21:48:00.608-07:002017-05-21T21:48:00.608-07:00I was thinking about you between your post and tho...I was thinking about you between your post and thought you may be taking some time for yourself. Which it sounds like you have on top of getting some major work accomplished. Awesome for getting everything turned in for national board certification! Sending lots of positive vibes now and through to the end of the year. Such a long time!<br /><br />Sorry to hear about your fall and injuries. It is so embarrassing to fall down as an adult! I took a tumble a few years ago the day before my sister's high school graduation. I had two scraped knees and an elbow. Fortunately, I had a longish skirt that covered most of it. But, my first thought after falling was, "I'm too old for this sh*t." My second thought was, "I don't remember it hurting this badly as a kid." But, I guess as we get older, we may have a longer way to go and gravity is not so kind. When people are under a lot of stress, it can sometimes make it easier to get hurt. Hope you heal up quickly! And hope you are on your way to feeling peace and healing in your heart. Hugs!!Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06275071143469111072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-84131628016463190642017-05-19T10:08:03.545-07:002017-05-19T10:08:03.545-07:00You are an awesome writer! I can relate to so much...You are an awesome writer! I can relate to so much of what you wrote:<br /><br />"so certain that working hard would result in achieving our goal"<br /><br />"We. Are. Done. We need to move forward without any caveat. And that is hard for people to hear, but it is necessary for survival."<br /><br />"We can... rediscover who we are without the quest for a baby, who we are just us two, and what our life can look like in this new reality."<br /><br />My husband and I stopped fertility treatments two years ago and we stopped pursuing parenthood about ten months ago. It's an interesting process. It's hard. It's sad. It's relieving. It's a long, varied grieving process. But the process is so very much worth it.<br /><br />It sounds like you have a lot of support. Please add me in that group. :) I'll be thinking about you and looking forward to reading more of your writing. <3Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-54946438368764249932017-05-19T05:01:59.844-07:002017-05-19T05:01:59.844-07:00Jess, I love you dearly and am so glad that you no...Jess, I love you dearly and am so glad that you now can begin a new life with Bryce that is free of constant expectation and disappointment, of high hopes and crushed dreams of parenthood. I'm so grateful that you and Bryce found each other. The stress you have both lived under for so long would have destroyed many marriages, but not yours. As you plan your grand adventure this summer, may you take wings and fly like eagles, high above the rocks below. Enjoy life! Stay safe from harm...and enjoy the beautiful life you have together. You two are amazing. ❤️Pat Wheelhousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05522148669774592247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-91110704554007023362017-05-19T02:02:17.703-07:002017-05-19T02:02:17.703-07:00I've been thinking of you often Jess, hoping y...I've been thinking of you often Jess, hoping you've been doing ok. Sorry about the fall! That sounded awful and embarrassing. Now that you've already reached rock bottom, the only way from here is up! I hope that comes across ok. Now that you have made the decision I hope you will be able to keep moving on with your lives. Planning a great holiday is a really good idea! That is sweet that so many people are upset and angry on your behalf. HugsdublinerinDeutschlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14804856792598440633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-30316553486751691172017-05-18T19:49:37.846-07:002017-05-18T19:49:37.846-07:00Well, fudge. Boo hiss about the fall, glad you wer...Well, fudge. Boo hiss about the fall, glad you weren't more seriously hurt. <br /><br />Congratulations on getting the boards done. <br /><br />Yay for vacation/honeymoon planning. <br /><br />Looking forward to adventure tales. <br /><br />Middle Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12334580430376973159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-28796688623333834452017-05-18T18:52:38.922-07:002017-05-18T18:52:38.922-07:00Hooray to no more prednisone! And I think you mad...Hooray to no more prednisone! And I think you made the best of a bad situation with the Queen's wave! As someone who once visited the urgent care to have three different appendages stitched up (seriously) I can relate to injuring myself in ways that seem to defy physics. <br /><br />Can't wait to hear more about the upcoming vacation! <br /><br />I'm glad that you're enjoying Justine's book! She's such an important voice in our little community.<br /><br />I'm glad for you that you were eyeballs deep in National Board Certification stuff for M****** Day. Distractions are always a good approach for dealing with the day! And congrats on submitting everything! Now I'm curious if we mutually know someone who is deeply involved in the national board certification stuff.<br /><br />Finally, I owe you an email! I HOPE to catch up on all of thoseBentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-78226570039233432282017-05-18T18:26:59.064-07:002017-05-18T18:26:59.064-07:00Congratulations on finishing that mammoth writing ...Congratulations on finishing that mammoth writing project. That is worthy of celebration!....and sorry to hear about yet another injury. Goodness, can you catch a break already?! Vacation planning sounds like a great distraction, and a concrete start to envisioning a new life. Thanks for updating. Still so disappointed how your adoption journey ended, but looking forward to reading and learning about your new goals and dreams.torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-17183322609121514062017-05-18T17:38:23.151-07:002017-05-18T17:38:23.151-07:00First, we congratulate/celebrate:
Now more predni...First, we congratulate/celebrate:<br /><br />Now more prednisone!<br /><br />Yay on all that typity typing for the Boards!<br /><br />Now the other stuff. Love this, and totally get this: "I have had my fill of limbo. We. Are. Done. We need to move forward without any caveat."<br /><br />I'm really excited to hear more about your trip.<br /><br />Heal up! I smile thinking of you doing the Queen's wave from a wheelchair...Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-47835450096785483672017-05-18T13:37:24.101-07:002017-05-18T13:37:24.101-07:00Oh thank you. Isn't that funny, now my outside...Oh thank you. Isn't that funny, now my outside looks kind of like my insides! I didn't even think of that. :) I'm glad to see everyone again and be out from under everything in the past week and a half. Such a super stressful time. We are totally choosing a vacation where we can have space for quiet time and doing all the things we love -- hiking, seeing interesting, off-the-beaten path things, eating amazing food, and drinking amazing wine. And reading. A bathing suit may be required, but not daily. It will be amazing. Thank you for the compliments and frustration. I think one of my greatest successes is our marriage, and I am so grateful that we are such a team and can weather all this and come out stronger for it. I wish we didn't have to, but that's life. Thank you!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-51666522809003649142017-05-18T13:33:55.324-07:002017-05-18T13:33:55.324-07:00Isn't that nuts? I feel like it's crazy, b...Isn't that nuts? I feel like it's crazy, because they score them over the summer. So why wait until the end of the year? It's torture. I am going to do my best to not think about it. Oh, and bar exams...that's hardcore! <br /><br />I just didn't know what to write for a while after the last post, and I had so much to do for the National Board, so it was insanely crazy and I really never opened up my non-work laptop at all in the past week until today. I wanted to respond to the comments too, but it made me so sad, and also everyone was so supportive and loving, and so it was perfect to take a chunk of today for that. <br /><br />I am totally counting on the gossip mill to get my story around, but apparently people are being real respectful of my privacy, and I do want to tell some people myself, so I guess at some point I'll just make it clear en masse. I need a little space from the wound though before I do that. <br /><br />THanks for vacation wishes and also condolences for Urgent Care...what a crazy thing. I really do need a bubble. :)Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-34846435224633002182017-05-18T13:29:54.633-07:002017-05-18T13:29:54.633-07:00Thank you, thank you -- for the love, for the fing...Thank you, thank you -- for the love, for the finger crossing, for the congratulations. I am SO GLAD to be done with Prednisone! It fixed my eye, but man, what a cost. And yeah, insult to injury (upon injury upon injury, apparently. I with there was a loyalty points program at Urgent Care, because surely I'd get something free by now). I loved Justine's book. Thank you for including me in a sentence with her! I feel that she's a lot more positive than I am, but maybe I'm more uplifting than I perceive myself? Hard to say. :) Thanks and I look forward to revealing more about our vacation!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-90594581333799670312017-05-18T12:44:43.030-07:002017-05-18T12:44:43.030-07:00I have been in and out so every time I do I scroll...I have been in and out so every time I do I scroll through everything a couple times to make sure I haven't missed an updated from you. I was happy when I randomly logged in today that I saw your name right on top.<br /><br />Your summer vacation plans sound like a wonderful idea. I'm sure you will both find something peaceful, fun, and interesting to do that will allow you to have some really nice quality time together.<br /><br />I adore you and Bryce, and your love for one another. It shows so much in your blogs. I concur with the other reactions of pure frustration and irritation at the injustice of you two not getting the child you rightfully deserve. <br /><br />As always sending hugs your way and hoping your bangs and bruises from the decision and the fall heal quickly <3Lavonne @ the OCD infertilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17506595995853364027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-11937388641490754072017-05-18T11:28:36.862-07:002017-05-18T11:28:36.862-07:00And congratulations on being done with Predinisone...And congratulations on being done with Predinisone!!!!Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-33786791974781966612017-05-18T10:25:30.581-07:002017-05-18T10:25:30.581-07:00I'm so glad you wrote because I was thinking a...I'm so glad you wrote because I was thinking about the fact that you have been radio-silent for a while (and how that is unlike you) and wondering how you have been. And now here is a post to catch us up!<br /><br />I'm sorry that it takes half a year to get your results back from the National Boards- that's crazy! And I thought that my bar exam results took a long time!<br /><br />I'm glad that you are finally DONE with the prednisone and that you guys are planning a big honeymoon. I think that you guys are overdue for a big vacation and can't wait to see where you guys go.<br /><br />I imagine that it is very difficult to tell others of your decision- is there any way you can use friends to tell people so that you don't have to do it every single time?<br /><br />Sorry about the latest Urgent Care visit, but hopefully this is the last one for a while. Sending you all kinds of good and healthy vibes. Non Sequitur Chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07268138421234170972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-70478975448031398442017-05-18T09:36:51.967-07:002017-05-18T09:36:51.967-07:00Screaming loudly about your accident. Why, oh why?...Screaming loudly about your accident. Why, oh why?!?! I'm so sorry you got hurt again. Glad it was not as serious as it initially appeared, but still.<br /><br />I've been thinking about you so much recently. None of this is fair or right. And yet, I have nothing but the utmost respect and love for you and Bryce as you proceed down this road of resolution. Its hard to say you're done (harder than most people will ever begin to realize), but this decision is about preserving your family and reclaiming your life. <br /><br />I'm so glad you found Justine's book. Like you, she's truly an amazing person. May healing continue.<br /><br />And my fingers are crossed for the National Boards and Bryce's final marks. Wishing you both a wonderful upcoming summer vacation.Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.com