tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post9030178760383385398..comments2023-11-19T21:42:17.901-08:00Comments on My Path to Mommyhood: Paved With Good IntentionsJesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-43612018823562184432017-03-27T16:39:56.479-07:002017-03-27T16:39:56.479-07:00It was so crazy to get tagged in that. I would arg...It was so crazy to get tagged in that. I would argue that that many kids going missing is an epidemic, it's just not a new epidemic. It's not a rise over the past years, but the fact that it hasn't garnered attention is highly upsetting. All the articles I saw said that it was a large number and that police said it wasn't larger than normal, just getting more attention than normal, which is not right. I do remember Davion! Thanks for the reminder. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-69093254742627058962017-03-27T11:18:41.101-07:002017-03-27T11:18:41.101-07:00YES! Any comment like "I would if I could&quo...YES! Any comment like "I would if I could" makes me think that people want to take these kids in like kittens or dogs. I can't believe that someone had the NERVE to tag you on that story. How utterly ridiculous and stupid.<br /><br />As far as the missing minority girls in DC, from what I have read it is not an epidemic and there are no more missing girls than usual in that area (I think some of the articles wanted you to believe that there were more missing than usual). What I DO agree with is that when a minority child goes missing, that there is little to no publicity...which is the opposite of when a white kid goes missing.<br /><br />This doesn't happen often, but I do remember the story of the black teenager who went to his church in hopes of getting adopted. http://www.today.com/news/davion-only-teen-who-made-appeal-adoption-church-finds-home-t19006Non Sequitur Chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07268138421234170972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-65772350706337291652017-03-26T12:44:34.927-07:002017-03-26T12:44:34.927-07:00Doesn't it feel like the grain of salt has bec...Doesn't it feel like the grain of salt has become a salt mine? I feel like it used to be such a small number of things that irritated me, and now it's SO MANY that fall into that emotional terrorism camp (love that term, by the way). Telling me no one cares enough to comment is a surefire way to make sure I don't actually participate on that one. Such an interesting cultural phenomenon, all this is! <br /><br />Absolutely. I agree totally, I feel like commenting that you would if you could (but obviously won't) is actually worse than not commenting at all, because it makes it seem like these kids are a commodity of sorts, or kittens to be rescued. Totally meaningless without action, yet somehow makes people feel like they did something. Argh. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-78198316125030552972017-03-26T12:42:21.412-07:002017-03-26T12:42:21.412-07:00Yes, yes! I agree, if you write it yourself, I'...Yes, yes! I agree, if you write it yourself, I'm always more likely to listen. Thinking for yourself is something that feels endangered to me. I totally agree with you on the videos and the manipulative stuff. I especially hate the ones that are like, "No one will do this, but like for a hug...I know who will hug me and who will not." Um, I'm not falling for that attention-seeking crap. Ditto to "post one word about me or I'm unfriending you, I'm culling my list." Cull away. Sigh. <br /><br />I do enjoy the entertaining stuff, and I think it's important to take any of the videos or articles into account with source and timing and whether it's clickbait or not. That said, I love the things you post! :) I appreciate when people clearly have read the article they share, care about it themselves, or share about their life in a way that's not constantly attention-seeking. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-39806877471542095982017-03-26T12:39:11.747-07:002017-03-26T12:39:11.747-07:00I need to avail myself of hiding more often I thin...I need to avail myself of hiding more often I think. The problem is when people you respect start falling prey to these things, and it just throws a wrench in that "connection" piece. Argh... Thank you SO MUCH for the tip on tagging -- I am definitely going to enact that. If it means less unflattering photos of me in the world I'm okay with that too! :) Ha ha. I like the option of getting more control there. It felt a bit like a violation to be included in something I didn't want to be included in. I hope that there is more awareness and investigation into the situation in DC. It breaks my heart, and pisses me off that it's considered just another day when it comes to these girls instead of something worthy of attention and funding. Not right. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-30495892893014088362017-03-26T12:36:09.978-07:002017-03-26T12:36:09.978-07:00I knew you would have more info! :) I think the cu...I knew you would have more info! :) I think the cut-and-paste thing about NYC predated the Washington Post about the request for more funding, but stems from the same info. If it linked to an actual article it would be better, but I don't know where it originally came from. Thanks for the article! <br /><br />Seriously on disease chain. So much funding at risk and so much fake spreading of awareness where actual action will help... So frustrating. The manipulativeness drives me batty. If you say, "I'm unfriending whoever doesn't..." it makes me MORE likely to not do it. <br /><br />Amen to the foster adoption piece. People do not comprehend the realities of that process. I am not at all surprised at these additional details, because they are based in REALITY and part of why we decided that was not our path. So much gets trivialized on social media, it's such a shame when it could be used for so much good. Sigh.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-15590623966974893222017-03-26T12:32:21.715-07:002017-03-26T12:32:21.715-07:00Yup...I'd like to think that not thinking is n...Yup...I'd like to think that not thinking is not the same as stupidity, because I really feel like this person had good intentions at heart, but NO THINKING. It was definitely off-putting. Yeah, there's so much to take with a grain of salt with Facebook, but lately I feel like I am just pouring the spout down my throat when I get on there. Sigh. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-53879382349209499802017-03-26T08:42:11.874-07:002017-03-26T08:42:11.874-07:00I take everything on Facebook with a grain of salt...I take everything on Facebook with a grain of salt, and I don't negotiate with emotional terrorists. Meaning, I won't cut-and-paste a message simply because someone puts in their feed that they want me to cut-and-paste a message, pairing it with a guilt-inducing line about how no one cares enough. <br /><br />It is too easy to make a statement like, "Oh! I would just scoop them up!" which sounds great but is meaningless without action. Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-44333846506164043972017-03-25T21:47:16.050-07:002017-03-25T21:47:16.050-07:00The manipulative posts ("95% of people won...The manipulative posts ("95% of people won't repost this but....") are very irritating. I try to ignore them because I don't want to waste emotional energy getting annoyed haha. Ditto for most things to do with American politics. Anything to do with DT or culture wars, I get a stream of completely opposite viewpoints in my newsfeed. I'm fine with that, and it's mildly entertaining. On the other hand, I'm not actually learning anything from any of the media people post, because I take a look at it and think, gosh, I have no time or energy to dig through this and figure it out for myself.<br /><br />And videos. Videos about kittens or whatever are ok. And video of raw news footage can be informative. But otherwise I do not like watching a video to learn about someone's opinion, or even something educational, because I can absorb the same message/information by reading it in a tenth of the time (that is not a scientifically determined number, but I read fast lol)<br /><br />The one thing I ALWAYS respect: when people take the time to explain, in their own words, why they believe something or why it is important. If someone can take the time and write at least five coherent sentences that came out of their own brain, I will listen to what they have to say even if I disagree with it or think it is slightly bonkers. The way to get my attention, and it's as scattered as anyone's, is to BE ORIGINAL and be INDIVIDUAL. I desperately want to connect with people who think for themselves!torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-27620124669242203942017-03-25T16:21:38.577-07:002017-03-25T16:21:38.577-07:00I wish I could say I'm surprised. I greatly di...I wish I could say I'm surprised. I greatly dismayed.<br /><br />Thankfully I don't see a lot of what you're experiencing. But, when I do, I hide and if I feel I have to hide too much, I just un-follow or un-friend. <br /><br />Granted, you can't un-ring the bell but the actions serve from helping to keep the bell from being rung again. I also have my privacy settings set to get prior approval before a tag (posts to my timeline) are posted. Doesn't prevent said post (or comment) from showing up on the tagger's timeline. <br /><br />Here. Here. re: the black and brown teen girls gone missing in the DC area and the general lack of coverage for this demographic group. <br /><br /> Middle Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12334580430376973159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-8039116345294649622017-03-25T14:56:47.804-07:002017-03-25T14:56:47.804-07:00Nodding my head to all of this. The most dangerous...Nodding my head to all of this. The most dangerous type of Fake News has elements of truth to it. I think you second point stemmed from the Washington Post article about the secret service not getting extra funding: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.washingtonpost.com/amphtml/politics/secret-service-asked-for-60-million-extra-for-trump-era-travel-and-protection-documents-show/2017/03/22/0967e7b6-0a85-11e7-a15f-a58d4a988474_story.html<br /><br />The disease chain posts also drive me nutty. Especially now that NIH funding is on the chopping block and few are calling their congress representatives. You care about cancer, diabetes, Alzheimer's, etc? Increase funding to NIH instead of slashing it to instead fund weapons manufacturers. I've yet to see how bombs lead to life-saving cures (believe me, scientists are stretching this comparison to gain access to these funds so research can continue).<br /><br />And finally, the adoption plea for these 5 kids. So much is missing from this story. Particularly the point that these kids are in foster care with the goal of reuniting them with their biological parents. Anyone who finds that surprising hasn't even scratched the surface of foster to adopt. It takes a specific type of person to weather this system and they aren't spreading these comments on Facebook<br />Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-54400371949268520752017-03-25T13:52:51.808-07:002017-03-25T13:52:51.808-07:00Well. It's no secret how I feel about fb, and ...Well. It's no secret how I feel about fb, and these examples you talk about are just a portion of the reasons why.<br />But, someone seriously tagged you in the 5 kids who need a home?!?!?! What the ever-loving hell. That's the dumbest thing I have ever heard. Because oh, sure. Those fb thing just always pan out, are always that easy. And also, Oh Jess wants to adopt! She might not have heard about these kids! She could be a mom tomorrow!<br />Just UGH. So sorry someone was just so utterly stupid. There just aren't enough words to convey that stupidity.<br />Sigh.<br />More reasons to hate Facebook. Smh.Charlottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08987444437659867827noreply@blogger.com