tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post8672649778046889091..comments2023-11-19T21:42:17.901-08:00Comments on My Path to Mommyhood: A Living GhostJesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-53123788939177880162016-01-19T09:15:44.074-08:002016-01-19T09:15:44.074-08:00Ugh this speaks to me. A close friend who lives 5 ...Ugh this speaks to me. A close friend who lives 5 minutes away was due 2 weeks to the day before me. I have to close my ears when someone asks her "How far along are you?!" because if I hear the answer, I will do the math against my will before I know it. Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00585102132829280344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-35270835633060544592016-01-11T00:47:16.325-08:002016-01-11T00:47:16.325-08:00You are so kind to help a friend. I'm sorry y...You are so kind to help a friend. I'm sorry you were surprised by the little girl. It sounds like a difficult moment to keep composure, especially if your heart feels like it hit hard. I have a friend with a little girl who reminds me of the what if's. Hugs for you!Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06275071143469111072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-79595881512387933132016-01-08T12:59:57.646-08:002016-01-08T12:59:57.646-08:00Thank you. It sure is, and those what ifs can just...Thank you. It sure is, and those what ifs can just get you sometimes, even if you feel like this is all a distant memory. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-36807295201812904582016-01-08T12:59:20.074-08:002016-01-08T12:59:20.074-08:00Thank you. Yes, a parallel universe--that sounds a...Thank you. Yes, a parallel universe--that sounds about right. Somewhere where everything worked out easily and without loss or pain and those babies made it. They don't exist, which is hard, and more so for the comparison with someone who had what should have been for you. Mystery Baby is totally a ray of sunshine in all this though -- he/she is real and coming for us! Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-31755858959108695432016-01-08T12:58:06.134-08:002016-01-08T12:58:06.134-08:00That sounds incredibly hard. It's so hard not ...That sounds incredibly hard. It's so hard not to see what could have been when there's such a close connection to a loss and someone else's situation results in success. Thank you for the luck! Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-54073333796001062872016-01-08T12:56:09.452-08:002016-01-08T12:56:09.452-08:00That would be so hard. So many ghosts in the proce...That would be so hard. So many ghosts in the process.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-86272827640078452332016-01-08T12:55:45.766-08:002016-01-08T12:55:45.766-08:00Thank you -- that's it, the what-ifs, and the ...Thank you -- that's it, the what-ifs, and the acceptance of knowing it's okay, if tough, to have those feelings.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-42078825515770927592016-01-08T12:55:12.992-08:002016-01-08T12:55:12.992-08:00It's tough to have that sort of comparison, an...It's tough to have that sort of comparison, and then to feel like a jerk for not wanting to put your face in it more than absolutely necessary... I'm sorry you went through it as well. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-78099633853224729632016-01-07T05:28:59.809-08:002016-01-07T05:28:59.809-08:00It's a hard moment. There are a few of those ...It's a hard moment. There are a few of those little ones among my friends...the "what ifs". Thinking of you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-91979000246940162142016-01-06T10:00:29.026-08:002016-01-06T10:00:29.026-08:00I am glad that the promise of Mystery Baby keeps y...I am glad that the promise of Mystery Baby keeps you hopeful through these difficult moments. It's hard not to think of the parallel universes that might exist/have existed if things went differently.torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-18434589888744769732016-01-05T19:30:21.553-08:002016-01-05T19:30:21.553-08:00I just got a video from my friend of her nephew- w...I just got a video from my friend of her nephew- who turned 4 yesterday- the 4 year anniversary of my loss. It is so, so hard. Wishing you good luck in your adoption journey.BabyBlueSundayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10950512228359479460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-21557888591516845072016-01-05T17:56:28.608-08:002016-01-05T17:56:28.608-08:00I had a friend who transferred on the exact same d...I had a friend who transferred on the exact same day as our first cycle. She got three, I got none. It was very hard (and still is) to watch them grow up, always wondering what our little ghost Ivy and Petri might look like. Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11569304261655584855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-13289822392360242242016-01-05T17:38:01.439-08:002016-01-05T17:38:01.439-08:00Grey's niece was conceived around the same tim...Grey's niece was conceived around the same time of my second pregnancy, which ended in miscarriage. And though this little girl did nothing wrong, it's hard still to look at her and have those "what ifs." <br /><br />Like you, I'm learning it's okay to have these feelings, despite what others might think or feel about them. Because with loss like this, healing is a long process, but one that has to happen. And the "what ifs" are part of it.<br /><br />Thinking of you tonight and sending love.Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-11932534427572889112016-01-05T15:35:11.885-08:002016-01-05T15:35:11.885-08:00I had a loss cycle like that, too. ((Hugs))I had a loss cycle like that, too. ((Hugs))Charlottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08987444437659867827noreply@blogger.com