tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post8162648495132358658..comments2023-11-19T21:42:17.901-08:00Comments on My Path to Mommyhood: What Does Common Core Have to Do With Infertility? (in which I explain how a close read exercise made me want to cry or throttle, not sure which)Jesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-78671442113178225122013-08-07T19:16:05.992-07:002013-08-07T19:16:05.992-07:00Oh my god, that brought me to tears. What a beauti...Oh my god, that brought me to tears. What a beautiful (and beautifully written) perspective. Thank you.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-5180412917729163462013-08-07T07:00:34.963-07:002013-08-07T07:00:34.963-07:00Well just think, they can never understand this wh...Well just think, they can never understand this whole dimension of life because they have never been infertile! Many people have never struggled for years with something as challenging and heart-breaking as this. I mean, I'm kind of joking, but I'm not really. I do believe that my years-long battle has changed my view of myself- I'm a fighter, and I didn't let hopelessness or sad days/months/years stop me. I never saw myself as determined and focused as this journey has made me, and THIS has changed my perspective on the world as much as being a mommy will someday. So screw 'em. Just smile and nod when they go on about "as a mother." You'll be a mother too, and with a rich history of overcoming adversity behind you. Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04638991577065880208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-73619895926053851322013-08-06T16:16:27.719-07:002013-08-06T16:16:27.719-07:00Thanks! Oh man, the pregnant people at work... I c...Thanks! Oh man, the pregnant people at work... I can't wait until the first faculty meeting of the year when I can see who popped out over the summer. Oh yeah, I can wait. ;-) I hope that it's possible to remember what all those mommy comments felt like once we make it to that glory land. And NEVER EVER make someone feel like less of a person (however unintentionally) because they're...not. And "smug" is the PERFECT word! :)Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-75254523621301088972013-08-06T16:14:21.550-07:002013-08-06T16:14:21.550-07:00Ha! I'm on an interview committee on Thursday....Ha! I'm on an interview committee on Thursday... I hope there's nothing like that coming my way. Yeah, awkward is right--I don't think anything good would have come from me going Norma Jean for infertility in the middle of my training. Thanks for the support, lady! Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-65789182684690844002013-08-06T14:18:40.558-07:002013-08-06T14:18:40.558-07:00GAG. This is cringe-worthy, I would have cringed t...GAG. This is cringe-worthy, I would have cringed too---and then gotten that beaten-down feeling i sometimes get. There are about 7 million women pregnant at my workplace right now and I cannot go anywhere without overhearing conversations about motherhood that are impossible not to filter through the IF lens. But I am getting a little better at letting go. When I see constant posts on FB from friends about the glory of motherhood, that "you just couldn't understand unless you are a mother" smugness, I am trying (and often failing) to take that opportunity to remind myself of all the stuff I've learned---I will never ever put myself in an exalted category "as a mother, as a parent." I will never assume I have secret knowledge and powers and insight into the very core of life's mysterious meaning because of my powers of conception, birthing, and mothering. That smugness is as intolerable as it is unintentional. Sigh. And we can't speak up without feeling crazypants or inappropriate or creating super-awkward situations. My hope is that once I'm on the "other side," I will finally have cooled down enough to be able to confront people in the moment in a way that is level-headed and useful. Anyway, I feel you, girl! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-17371926226212568722013-08-05T19:51:17.124-07:002013-08-05T19:51:17.124-07:00Ugh. I would probably not have been able to keep m...Ugh. I would probably not have been able to keep my mouth shut. And then it would have gotten all awkward. <br /><br />I actually vetoed a potential teaching candidate because the first thing out of her mouth, when asked if she brought her credentials with, was, "Oh this mommy brain! I can't remember anything these days." Um. Okay, NEXT. I hate that just because you are a mom you are suddenly justified in forgetting things. <br /><br />Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11569304261655584855noreply@blogger.com