tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post75483462631699127..comments2023-11-19T21:42:17.901-08:00Comments on My Path to Mommyhood: Embryo Adoption... Beginning the ProcessJesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-78136536806380500792015-12-10T19:21:02.258-08:002015-12-10T19:21:02.258-08:00I have been so impressed with Snowflakes and all t...I have been so impressed with Snowflakes and all the people that I've spoken with! We are so grateful that your program exists. The openness and ability to help choose potential parents for our embryos was so appealing. I have to admit when I first saw your comment I was like, "OH NO! I hope I didn't offend anyone!" but I am glad that's not the case. Hopefully. ;-) Thanks for stopping by, and for your well-wishes for our future parenthood through adoption! Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-78560266473120152472015-12-10T19:18:35.823-08:002015-12-10T19:18:35.823-08:00The not knowing would have driven me batty. I am s...The not knowing would have driven me batty. I am so glad that there are organizations that do embryo adoption with at least some level of openness, to take that mystery out of the equation. It is wonderful to have this option available, and to find that it was actually pretty flexible, which we had originally thought it wouldn't be. We are feeling a lot of peace, but the sadness and excitement poke through at times. It's a very surreal place to be, but it will be so interesting to see how it all unfolds. Thank you for the hugs!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-54330470123455340112015-12-10T19:16:24.983-08:002015-12-10T19:16:24.983-08:00Oh, we are almost ridiculous in how we go about th...Oh, we are almost ridiculous in how we go about these decisions, but we can honestly say that we thought long and hard and considered all the options. :) It definitely feels exciting to give these embryos a chance somewhere else and see what happens. It's like a whole other mystery to see unfold. I so appreciate your hugs as I balance out the mourning of what's not to be and the celebrating of so much possibility!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-2265803397502234052015-12-10T19:15:03.257-08:002015-12-10T19:15:03.257-08:00Oh, yes! Big weight off our shoulders. Now we can ...Oh, yes! Big weight off our shoulders. Now we can concentrate on our own adoption process, and continuing to prepare for our own Mystery Baby! (So many Mystery Babies in the picture...) It was an exhausting decision but I'm so glad the wheels are in motion. Thank you!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-83809332035743597412015-12-10T19:13:43.486-08:002015-12-10T19:13:43.486-08:00I really have been impressed with Snowflakes and t...I really have been impressed with Snowflakes and think that they are a great option, at least from the placing parent side. I am so glad that I asked all the questions I did and didn't assume based on their worldview that they wouldn't be a good fit. It has been interesting to make these decisions, and intense and exhausting, but I'm glad that sharing it is helpful (as it is to me to help process all this complexity). It is lovely to have some peace and closure. Thank you for your thoughts! Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-88662632226521814722015-12-10T07:58:27.086-08:002015-12-10T07:58:27.086-08:00Welcome to Snowflakes! You have done a great job e...Welcome to Snowflakes! You have done a great job evaluating our program based on your worldview vs ours. We do accept all embryo donations and we do work darn hard to get each embryo placed into a loving family. <br /><br />Many people are able to put aside their fear of have 'someone else' raise their child because they are able to select the recipient family and actually have a connection for future communications. <br /><br />We're happy to know you are pursuing parenthood via a new path and wish you all the best in 2016!HatCreekGalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00468626393155679053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-1741652384754671032015-12-03T21:21:34.163-08:002015-12-03T21:21:34.163-08:00So many difficult thoughts and feelings to sort ou...So many difficult thoughts and feelings to sort out in your decision making process. I've been reading along with your other posts. It seems hard to make a decision when I could imagine as a planner you may have thought your thought through all of the possibilities. The not knowing part does seem difficult, but glad to hear there are options for embryo donors. It seems like you all carefully looked into your options, asked some great questions and took the time and care you needed. That part of you and your husband that is out there is important and loved. Hope you both find peace in your decision. Well wishes for your embryos. Many hugs, friend.Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06275071143469111072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-57756101456675740002015-12-02T11:47:46.759-08:002015-12-02T11:47:46.759-08:00I love how thoroughly you analyze these complex si...I love how thoroughly you analyze these complex situations and come to just the right conclusion. Although I know that you are mourning for your own loss, but having your embryos adopted feels exciting. Your continuing to build your family, but just in a more unconventional way than you could have possibly imagined. It's a wonderful gift for you, and the recipient family. I hope the joy you find in having made the right decision slowly starts to outweigh the sadness in having had to make this decision in the first place. Hugs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-84807706372513481522015-12-01T11:27:37.931-08:002015-12-01T11:27:37.931-08:00I'm glad that you were able to figure out a pl...I'm glad that you were able to figure out a place for your embryos as I know that it was a tough decision. What a nice weight off your shoulders before Christmas!Non Sequitur Chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07268138421234170972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-75690964882827888072015-12-01T07:46:23.701-08:002015-12-01T07:46:23.701-08:00This is so, so interesting. Thank you for sharing...This is so, so interesting. Thank you for sharing this amazing, complex process. I think you and Bryce are incredible for thinking through all of this and making these decisions.<br /><br />I actually looked at Snowflakes at one point in my journey as an option to obtain embryos, and like you, was put off by some of the language they use (I'm Christian, but of the liberal, pro-LGBTQ, feminist persuasion). As someone who came extremely close to having to terminate a very wanted pregnancy (in the second trimester, no less) for my health and safety, the non-termination clause bothers me too. It's good to know there's a way around it. I totally hear you about the openness thing. It's great that this agency allows such contact.<br /><br />So glad that you've found something that works for you and are finding peace with it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-37419777901764639402015-11-30T15:12:13.447-08:002015-11-30T15:12:13.447-08:00Thanks for visiting and reading up, Alice! I am fl...Thanks for visiting and reading up, Alice! I am flattered and so glad to have you join me. I appreciate your compliments! So, according to Snowflakes, they can always work with clinics if you send the consents and everything so your clinic can talk with them. No one can keep you from donating your embryos if that is what you so choose, which is good to know! Snowflakes/Nightlight Christian Adoption was never an option at either clinic we worked with per the frozen embryo paperwork, but it is apparently your call to decide what organization to go with and it doesn't matter if they aren't specifically endorsed by your clinic.It was amazing to me that there are so many people looking to adopt embryos or use donated embryos... the number of babies born through Snowflakes alone was astonishing. The whole "our child" thing is so interesting, because we totally felt the same earlier in the game but circumstances changed. I hope that you don't have to wrestle with these decisions, and that you have the embryos you need to create the family you desire without muddling through all this. But it is nice to know all your options, right? <br /><br />I am glad I have been helpful to you! Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-61459422270392293762015-11-30T15:06:53.146-08:002015-11-30T15:06:53.146-08:00I hope the same to you! Thanks, Megan! Always easi...I hope the same to you! Thanks, Megan! Always easier to travel this journey with friends by your side. May next year bring us both the joy we've been hoping for. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-82733900962461916562015-11-30T15:05:56.026-08:002015-11-30T15:05:56.026-08:00Thank you for your thoughts and your appreciation,...Thank you for your thoughts and your appreciation, Sumita... there are so, so many complexities to the infertility world that we never even imagined we'd face, so it is so important to have compassionate doctors like yourself. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-54506891885956622832015-11-30T15:04:58.628-08:002015-11-30T15:04:58.628-08:00Thanks, Aimee... it was certainly a lot of sorting...Thanks, Aimee... it was certainly a lot of sorting. What a great way to put it! It is complex, and I am super grateful for the options. And the peace, sad as it can be at times.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-62224132428318096192015-11-30T11:23:48.773-08:002015-11-30T11:23:48.773-08:00Hi! I found you through Non Sequitor Chica, and ju...Hi! I found you through Non Sequitor Chica, and just voraciously read through a ton of your posts. My heart goes out to you - you guys have been through a LOT. You write about it beautifully. <br /><br />This post was especially fascinating to me, as my husband and I just had a discussion about donating embryos. My clinic does not allow it (although perhaps if I arrange it through a third party! I didn't know it was an option) but I was saying I WISH it were, because if we end up with "extras" it certainly seems like a waste to just destroy them. My husband thought it was very unlikely anyone would want someone else's embryos in the first place, and also felt very uncomfortable with the idea of someone else raising "our" child. I've only been through one round of IVF so far, but I already feel like if what we've done so far could help someone else have a child, we absolutely should try to. <br /><br />All of this is hypothetical of course, since we don't even have a baby yet, much less extra embryos yet. But I was definitely thrilled to hear there are donation / adoption options! Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15287792370490363047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-35807808003757438042015-11-30T05:02:21.220-08:002015-11-30T05:02:21.220-08:00How exciting! Looks like we won't be the only ...How exciting! Looks like we won't be the only ones going through an adoption process next year! Many blessings to you and may your adoption process be easy and glorious.<br /><br />Megan Richards<br />meganrrichards.blogspot.comMegan Richardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03471277427787225885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-33485588015763912672015-11-29T22:46:26.629-08:002015-11-29T22:46:26.629-08:00This is very difficult task to find out the best t...This is very difficult task to find out the best treatment option when you come to know that you are diagnosed with infertility problem. Because at that time you are completely under stress. I would like to appreciate both of you. Really both of you are very strong person. Professionally I am a doctor at <a href="http://goo.gl/QjmlOY" title="Test Tube Baby Centre in India" rel="nofollow">Test Tube Baby centre in India</a> and I can understand the situation of the persons who are infertile.sumita sofathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14033790560060056462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-7368414944875388902015-11-29T18:21:20.134-08:002015-11-29T18:21:20.134-08:00I can't even begin to imagine how much that to...I can't even begin to imagine how much that took for you and Bryce to sort through all the facts and feelings and come to a decision that will lead you to peace at closing the door on such a big part of your life. You are right that it's so complex. <br /><br />I'm glad you found a solution that feels "right". <br /><br />Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11569304261655584855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-80261024531347813142015-11-29T15:08:07.714-08:002015-11-29T15:08:07.714-08:00It does seem like absolutely everything is a proce...It does seem like absolutely everything is a process, right? I guess nothing is straightforward when you have so many genetic factors in the mix, not necessarily your own, on all counts. Such an interesting conundrum, but I am so grateful to have a solution. For both my homeless embryos and my babyless home! :)Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-70018452280749285162015-11-29T15:06:34.653-08:002015-11-29T15:06:34.653-08:00Thank you! It has been a rough couple of weeks. I ...Thank you! It has been a rough couple of weeks. I just can't stop spinning my wheels on stuff like this until there's a resolution, so I am so very glad that we decided not to delay the decision another year. Thank you for your thoughts, and I am also so glad that there are so many options for this situation, and that this one is so accepting of all kinds of embryos. :)Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-30370131852870205442015-11-29T12:51:58.248-08:002015-11-29T12:51:58.248-08:00Wow. What a lot you had to sort through to find re...Wow. What a lot you had to sort through to find resolution on such a complex situation. I can understand why you'd be SO ready to finally be done with it and move forward both with your embryos and with your parenting journey. I've learned a lot from you about the process.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-62948974339021865502015-11-29T12:51:37.711-08:002015-11-29T12:51:37.711-08:00"Surreal, and oddly beautiful it its complexi..."Surreal, and oddly beautiful it its complexity." Yes. I think you have done a thorough job of researching the options, looking into your heart and considering possible outcomes. It is so complicated but I hope this process will continue to bring you closure. I'm glad that there is a service out there that allows you to find the most positive outcome.torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.com