tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post6774190572625158095..comments2023-11-19T21:42:17.901-08:00Comments on My Path to Mommyhood: What IS a Happy Ending, Anyway? Jesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-36135329366482947072016-04-26T07:40:57.747-07:002016-04-26T07:40:57.747-07:00I really love this post, because I think it can be...I really love this post, because I think it can be so easy to get caught up in a particular dream or version of a dream and miss that the elements of a different sort of happy ending are there. It's a great re-framing of the concept. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-8288464902923397442016-04-12T10:30:53.305-07:002016-04-12T10:30:53.305-07:00I guess I was never raised on the happily ever aft...I guess I was never raised on the happily ever after. It was more of, try to be happy wherever you are in life and to make the best of whatever situation you are in because you never know what life will throw at you. This philosophy certainly has helped while going through infertility because while we kept moving towards the end goal (aka to have kids), we didn't stop the rest of our lives during the process. When I have kid #2 in July, I won't have reached my happily ever after but I will simply be done with my baby-making years.Non Sequitur Chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07268138421234170972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-41965546318824711302016-04-10T14:07:39.737-07:002016-04-10T14:07:39.737-07:00I've been reading parts of this post over the ...I've been reading parts of this post over the past couple of days, reflecting on each theme within this overall theme.<br /><br />Like many, I was raised on happily ever after. This idea that if you can just complete a specific checklist, you'll reach happiness. Yet we know this never happens. We may be happy for a period, but it is passing.<br /><br />In addition, our definition of happiness can change. Things we didn't originally look for turn out to make us happier than what we originally wanted. This is complex too.<br /><br />For these reasons, I hate the "never give up" mentality. Instead of promoting a pursuit for happiness on a holistic level, it encourages obsessing over only one ending at all costs. A recipe for unhappiness.<br /><br />Thanks for the thought-provoking postCristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-223232485968513662016-04-09T13:34:05.968-07:002016-04-09T13:34:05.968-07:00Thank you so much -- I think it's so much heal...Thank you so much -- I think it's so much healthier to think of life as constantly evolving and for expectations to change as well. I blame the wedding industry and rom-coms... :) I feel like there's so much expectation wrapped up in what your life "should" look like and when it goes awry it can really be something. I am really working through acceptance issues lately, I guess! :) I definitely don't feel guilty for my feelings, but want to be sure that I don't put unfair expectations (or keep that cycle going of seeking that happily ever after through my words) on our future child. I agree with you -- there's no ending yet. Thanks for your thoughts!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-2566287406615729452016-04-09T13:31:30.283-07:002016-04-09T13:31:30.283-07:00Thank you! So much is tied into all those parts of...Thank you! So much is tied into all those parts of your story that lead to where you are, right? I so hope to pass this on to our future child. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-83175530186050069812016-04-09T12:38:58.955-07:002016-04-09T12:38:58.955-07:00This is a really thought-provoking post. In thinki...This is a really thought-provoking post. In thinking in terms of my own life, I don't really think of anything as a "happy ending" because my life is not ending...just because I have certain things and don't have others. My life is evolving and moving and a very fluid thing moment to moment, day to day. Happy endings are things in story books and movies. And it's naive to put a phrase like "happily ever after" onto a real life anything. Being happy with what you have, and also wanting something more are perfectly normal, human things. You shouldnt feel guilty for your feelings!!Charlottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08987444437659867827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-56384215939465961252016-04-09T11:59:32.521-07:002016-04-09T11:59:32.521-07:00What a great post. I enjoy how you take apart the ...What a great post. I enjoy how you take apart the concept of "a happy ending" (you have done this before with other expressions and assumptions and it's very thought provoking." Love this sentence which I think expresses the theme of your post: "We are more secure for the mistakes made and the toxicity survived." This is a great lesson to pass on to your future child (or any child that crosses your path).torthúilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07738803052167620020noreply@blogger.com