tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post5395913846579199690..comments2023-11-19T21:42:17.901-08:00Comments on My Path to Mommyhood: #Microblog Monday: This Is the Story You GetJesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-11755203788498123552016-09-11T07:04:52.935-07:002016-09-11T07:04:52.935-07:00I so agree with you. I feel like our society just ...I so agree with you. I feel like our society just sucks at handling the things that aren't neat and tidy and social-media-perfect. Peel that varnish off, it serves no one in the end. Thank you so much for your thoughts.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-45123343085208167892016-09-11T07:03:34.000-07:002016-09-11T07:03:34.000-07:00You are so welcome...thank YOU! It's hard to c...You are so welcome...thank YOU! It's hard to come to peace with things so upsetting and that seem to make so little sense. I wouldn't say I've found peace with my story, either...I just have found peace with telling it. :)Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-9105995158079927272016-09-10T12:33:55.128-07:002016-09-10T12:33:55.128-07:00Love, love this post. One of the points here - th...Love, love this post. One of the points here - that there are unfinished, jagged edges in our stories, things that can't be glossed over along with the beautiful things - is something that gets overlooked so often and easily in the current culture of pin.terest or insta.gram prettiness. I think it's also amazing and awesome that this post refuses to put a varnish over the emotions that accompany those moments. I love the part where you talk about how it's okay to be upset and bewildered by the stuff life throws out there. That is a message that I think often is actively negated in our society in ways both subtle and overt.<br /><br />Like others have said, this is one that will get bookmarked and stay with me. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-22367002674896452272016-09-10T10:05:20.183-07:002016-09-10T10:05:20.183-07:00Oh, thank you! That means so much to me. Oh, thank you! That means so much to me. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-57960408530333555622016-09-10T09:08:45.206-07:002016-09-10T09:08:45.206-07:00Oh, I love that. No more pretty bows for other peo...Oh, I love that. No more pretty bows for other people's soothing... let it be what it is, and that it's okay to show the pain and despair and not be like, "oh, okay, this is what happened and I'm going to slap a smile on myself and pretend it's all okay." I'm glad this post will sit with you! It's sitting with me, too. Thank you for your thoughts.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-71158995816314252912016-09-10T09:05:55.627-07:002016-09-10T09:05:55.627-07:00Thank you! Thank you! Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-27108623607299662262016-09-10T09:05:46.855-07:002016-09-10T09:05:46.855-07:00Absolutely. ANd it's hard, right, when you hav...Absolutely. ANd it's hard, right, when you have so many things that are wonderful and you're not ungrateful for those things, but holy hell this particular part of the story? So painful. So not what I expected out of life. A friend of mine put up on facebook that her young children were driving her crazy with all their stuff at the end of summer, and someone actually ADMONISHED her and was like, "Oh, wait until they go to college and you're left alone, you'll miss the clutter." I was so happy that she responded with, "yeah, but now it's driving me CRAZY and that's what I'm talking about." It's like people only WANT to see the beautiful shiny slightly hazy filter of social media, and when reality seeps in you get busted for it. And yeah, see the movie -- I loved it!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-71435670727352598532016-09-10T09:03:06.040-07:002016-09-10T09:03:06.040-07:00That's it, right? Not a whole lot of choice in...That's it, right? Not a whole lot of choice in there. You get what you get (but you SO have the right to be upset, unlike the preschool rhyme...). I love that, the shielding is not your responsibility. Right on. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-25519707629928077492016-09-10T09:01:57.297-07:002016-09-10T09:01:57.297-07:00Thanks so much, Traci! I'm lucky to feel free ...Thanks so much, Traci! I'm lucky to feel free to speak my mind...something I got from my mom. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-22301171603302534462016-09-09T06:11:06.719-07:002016-09-09T06:11:06.719-07:00Wow. What a post. I agree with Mel above about her...Wow. What a post. I agree with Mel above about her favorite part. My story makes people uncomfortable but that doesn't mean I have to wrap it up in a pretty bow and am allowed to write about the pain and despair. Love love love this post. It will sit with me for some time.Peghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02162890081910497200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-1901209244489598892016-09-09T05:13:33.409-07:002016-09-09T05:13:33.409-07:00YES. This post. This. Agreed. Supported. Love...YES. This post. This. Agreed. Supported. Loved.Amanda Prescotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11709979610638621806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-12936974632306787312016-09-08T17:58:06.200-07:002016-09-08T17:58:06.200-07:00I've also been feeling like screaming, "I...I've also been feeling like screaming, "I want a different story" lately. But you're right, the story we get is the story we get, and that's all we can tell, warts and all. Of course, we all want the fairy tale, but I've come to realise that anyone who is just telling us the happily ever after fairy tale isn't necessarily telling us their whole story. <br /><br />Note: Must see that movie, as I loved the book.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09836580783987031975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-53686479379458264012016-09-07T08:48:57.763-07:002016-09-07T08:48:57.763-07:00For a very long time I was the son; I didn't w...For a very long time I was the son; I didn't want this to be my story and so I fought hard against is, not accepting infertility as my reality, not accepting my diagnosis, obstinately refusing to believe this was happening to me. I find this ties into Mel's post about life not being fair except that we all get one shot at it, just one life to live. As time has passed I've become somewhat more comfortable with my circumstances, but I don't think I've quite reached the stage of embracing and finding peace with my story. I keep pushing myself emotionally, but I'm stubborn so it takes time. I shall now go find both book and movie and perhaps find some inspiration. Thank you. Empty Arms, Broken Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11158910835440188959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-11656695726539717922016-09-06T17:13:02.712-07:002016-09-06T17:13:02.712-07:00One of your best posts ever. I have chills down b...One of your best posts ever. I have chills down both arms. I love this sentiment: "what you want and what you get are two different things, and that you can make the most of it but it's okay to be upset and bewildered by the story you got, and share that so that you can find other people who understand what it's like to live in that particular reality." Always keep telling it.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-90266634383260721002016-09-06T11:54:11.295-07:002016-09-06T11:54:11.295-07:00Yes! I remember driving home from my ill-fated ult...Yes! I remember driving home from my ill-fated ultrasound for my second loss and thinking "but I don't want this to be my story!" But it is. We don't always get to choose. I am absolutely not going to pretend my story is anything other than what it is because it makes me people afraid. It did happen to me, and it very well could happen to them too. It's not my responsibility to shield them from that. Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00585102132829280344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-23393672572129172912016-09-06T09:12:49.305-07:002016-09-06T09:12:49.305-07:00I don't know what I love more - your wonderful...I don't know what I love more - your wonderful, unapologetic way of presenting your story (you go, girl!), or your mother's response. I can see the apple and the tree. :)internetg33khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12672869878789920528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-43298396832046952252016-09-05T17:16:45.784-07:002016-09-05T17:16:45.784-07:00Thanks, Mom! Much appreciated. Thanks, Mom! Much appreciated. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-77463129147282552452016-09-05T17:16:29.819-07:002016-09-05T17:16:29.819-07:00Oh, thank you! I shared it on my facebook because ...Oh, thank you! I shared it on my facebook because you said that, not because I had certain people in mind but because I was like, "Maybe this will breed more empathy out there for stories that aren't following the standard plotline." I do love that quote about the end! Who knows what that will look like, but I hope for resolution so badly. Limbo is no fun. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-42674598018063887772016-09-05T17:14:42.100-07:002016-09-05T17:14:42.100-07:00Yeah, that myth is hard to face up to when so many...Yeah, that myth is hard to face up to when so many people for whom things work out in whatever arena put it out there, not knowing how painful that is when it's not your truth. It's totally about being comfortable with someone else's loss by shoving it off to "reason" or "paths." I agree with you, bunk. I so, so, so appreciate you walking beside me on this journey. There's so many beautiful moments to offset the pain, but the pain can just take your breath away sometimes. Thanks for the love!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-58044435418484516672016-09-05T17:12:29.222-07:002016-09-05T17:12:29.222-07:00Thank you, I'm so glad it resonates. That scen...Thank you, I'm so glad it resonates. That scene so got my wheels turning. The book is amazing and so is the movie... beautiful in a painful sort of way. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-45108432771560387152016-09-05T17:11:52.817-07:002016-09-05T17:11:52.817-07:00It's so hard, right? There's this spectrum...It's so hard, right? There's this spectrum of feeling where you are in this journey, of either accepting what is or feeling doors close but trying to wedge it open justincase or fighting tooth and nail to make it be what you'd hoped for... none of it's within our control. But the solidarity is so important...the knowing that others live in this space and survive it is important. And yes! I have the tomato jar feeling too!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-37955003459636944182016-09-05T17:09:47.275-07:002016-09-05T17:09:47.275-07:00Absolutely. It does make me think about how to sha...Absolutely. It does make me think about how to share painful details with a child, too, because of Room. It's on Amazon Prime if you have it... it was really quite good. So much complexity everywhere.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-78584351885878723322016-09-05T17:08:54.299-07:002016-09-05T17:08:54.299-07:00Thanks lady! I do my best! :)Thanks lady! I do my best! :)Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-19323521832083958292016-09-05T17:08:41.029-07:002016-09-05T17:08:41.029-07:00Thank you so much. I can only hope that by slingin...Thank you so much. I can only hope that by slinging my voice up against the typical I can breed a little empathy! ;) I read the book a long time ago, but the movie seemed very true to it and beautifully done. I would totally recommend it. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-12025882325637612262016-09-05T15:09:06.365-07:002016-09-05T15:09:06.365-07:00I will always hear your story with compassion, res...I will always hear your story with compassion, respect, and love. Always.Pat Wheelhousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05522148669774592247noreply@blogger.com