tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post2087991783796603524..comments2023-11-19T21:42:17.901-08:00Comments on My Path to Mommyhood: Delay, Delay, DelayJesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-74812532130745806052014-12-28T21:28:27.892-08:002014-12-28T21:28:27.892-08:00I too dislike (and that's putting it very mild...I too dislike (and that's putting it very mildly) the "everything happens for a reason" camp. But I have always said that we can find reasons to appreciate the way things happen...even in the crummiest circumstances. <br /><br />I can't imagine trying your last FET while making funeral preparations, traveling, and mourning your grandmother's passing...I'm afraid you would not be able to let yourself grieve properly for fear of screwing something up and/or grieve as you should and then feel guilty like you spoiled a cycle if things didn't pan out. So, while your grandmother's passing is in no way the reason you had stupid mystery fluid and a cancelled cycle, you can appreciate that you aren't cycling right now because it would be bad timing. Does that make sense? <br /><br />So...even though this delay is beyond frustrating now, here's hoping that you will someday find reasons to appreciate it.<br /><br />Hugs to you!Kelseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02475215174723439229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-3941671585409094442014-12-22T08:43:24.583-08:002014-12-22T08:43:24.583-08:00That is a wonderful thought... And thanks for the ...That is a wonderful thought... And thanks for the heads up on your enabling! I won't be shoe shopping with you (I already have a pair of heels a fashionista friend convinced me to buy that are lovely but hurt way too much for me to wear regularly). :) Ha, ha. I hope everything comes to be in its own time, but that we can finagle this overlapping with grace. I just can't wait any longer. Thanks again for your support!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-7261298243333562022014-12-18T14:13:25.007-08:002014-12-18T14:13:25.007-08:00I get trying to protect yourself, and that makes m...I get trying to protect yourself, and that makes more sense than actually being detached. I'm a huge enabler (in only the best ways--if you go shopping with me, I will convince you that you need that 3rd pair of sparkly heels) so I was just thinking of how to justify moving forward with the adoption process.<br /><br />I'm glad you're moving forward.<br /><br />Of course, what I want is a pregnancy and an adoption--your plate would be so lovingly full.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-8368363858230251662014-12-15T17:30:22.637-08:002014-12-15T17:30:22.637-08:00Thanks, Amanda. We appreciate your thoughts... suc...Thanks, Amanda. We appreciate your thoughts... success in 2015 would be very, very welcome. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-62450006300771605722014-12-15T17:29:29.498-08:002014-12-15T17:29:29.498-08:00Thank you so much for your comment. It's an in...Thank you so much for your comment. It's an interesting perspective--I loved the part about using birth control while pursuing adoption. I never thought of it that way. (Of course, I would, because otherwise my PCOS periods are far too unpredictable and clothing-destroying, but not to prevent pregnancy--at that point it'll be pretty darn apparent a whoopsie wouldn't happen). But the thought was very compelling. <br /><br />I hope I didn't sound like I am just going through the motions. I'm not, and sometimes it's like a defense mechanism to pretend like I care less than I do. I really, really, really, hope that this works. It's just so hard after having so many embryos die in there to feel excited about another cycle when lately so much has gone wrong that's new. It's possible our doctor has the fix, but I just can't put all my hope in that basket anymore. <br /><br />I think we're planning on starting the application anyway, in late January. Collecting paperwork is a lot different from the home study, which I am certain I won't have the bandwidth to do simultaneously with a cycle. It just feels like this limbo, this incomplete sentence that's hanging out there waiting to be finished. (Maybe an unresolved chord hanging in the air?)<br /><br />Thanks for the hugs and the thoughts and the thoughtfulness of your comment. I'm sure we'll get there sometime, hopefully in 2015, or at least sooner than later. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-27550728366587731552014-12-15T11:20:55.591-08:002014-12-15T11:20:55.591-08:00I was just commenting to Romeyn the other day that...I was just commenting to Romeyn the other day that I had just about had it with 2014. 2015 cannot come soon enough. We are thinking of you and praying for your successful babyness by any method or methods possible. This baby is already so loved that I feel that you've already blessed him/her with a wonderful promise of eventual life with parents who will do anything to make sure that he/she is a happy, healthy child.Amanda Prescotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11709979610638621806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7998166587816121679.post-44255865006524017352014-12-14T16:09:19.096-08:002014-12-14T16:09:19.096-08:00While I'm not glad that you're so delayed,...While I'm not glad that you're so delayed, I am glad that you don't have to deal with Ali that stress and grief, too. I'm still so sorry about your grandma, she was amazing. <br /><br />I got to thinking about you (while walking the dog; you're on my mind these days) and it sounds to me (and I could be wrong) that you're going through the motions of cycling, but your hearts aren't in it. You're doing it because you think you have to, not because you want to. <br /><br />I 100% understand why and agree you have to give these embryos a shot, I don't think it's disingenuous or wrong or lying to move forward with the adoption concurrently. <br /><br />While I know there's an infinitesimal chance of this, but what if you fell pregnant naturally while pursuing adoption? Would you feel compelled to use birth control while pursuing adoption so you would feel 100% committed to the process?<br /><br />I know it's not analogous, that doing IVF is actively trying, not passively, but I just wonder if you're already moving on, or already there and you'd be doing you and Bryce a disservice by waiting. <br /><br />Of course, maybe I don't know what I'm talking about at all. <br /><br />It's a tough spot to be in, and I want you to find happiness as soon as possible. But I also know that part of being truly happy is following the path that's right for you. <br /><br />Hugs for your grandma, hugs for your canceled cycle, hugs for the delay, and just hugs for being you. <br /><br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com